Yesterday was my first meeting with Luke (not his real name). He would like help with Mathematics, English and the sciences. Our first meeting took the form of a conversation. I wanted to know what he was hoping to achieve in his education. And I came to realise his aim did not reflect what he could become in Christ, which is to say he wasn’t aiming for the highest development of his mind and soul.
I then questioned him on why he wasn’t aiming for the highest academic achievements, I wanted to know the nontrue thoughts he had, if any, and the mindset he had. Some of the reasons he gave were, “Its hard”, “I’m not that smart”, these and similar reasons he gave as an explanation of why he wasn’t aiming higher.
And following from those answers I asked him about what people who achieve the most have in common. He gave some good answers, which we then distilled to a more memorable, and shorter list: a growth mindset, industriousness and trust in God. These qualities can be developed, and therefore Luke can also aim higher, is what I then helped him to see. (That is the list for now, it will lengthen a bit more later, after we have made those three qualities his habits.)
To further encourage Luke to aim higher, we also spoke about how aiming low now might translate into his later years, he might continue aiming low. And he might look back later with regret for not aiming higher.
The more we spoke about aiming higher, the more Lukes eyes grew brighter. He grew more hopeful and more cheerful. He decided to aim higher, and he knew it was going to mean work, hard work. I know he will do well. He knows now what brings success. And he now has what I think every student needs from parents and teachers: a coach who lovingly encourages them to come up higher.
In the next meeting we will talk about how Luke can have more than human help, the help that comes from God. I will help him to know that God will bless unselfishness efforts towards development to serve in this world. And with a higher aim, those ideas in mind, and qualities developing, he will be ready to receive help in Mathematics, English and the sciences.